4.1. Маленькое – большое яблоко. Зачем откладывать дела на потом?

Loading...

En provenance du cours de National Research Nuclear University MEPhI

Основы поиска дела жизни. Часть 1. Как перестать откладывать дела на потом?

486 notes

National Research Nuclear University MEPhI

Основы поиска дела жизни. Часть 1. Как перестать откладывать дела на потом?

486 notes

Конфуций говорил «Найди себе дело по душе, и тебе не придется работать ни дня в своей жизни». АНЕКДОТ: — Доктор, я буду жить? — А смысл?! Мы искренне верим, что Вас этот анекдот не касается. – Вы обожаете свою работу и просыпаетесь рано утром с горящими глазами? – Вы готовы до конца своих дней заниматься выбранным сейчас делом? – Встретив неудачу на выбранном пути, Вы засучиваете рукава и она подстегивает Вас к более эффективной работе? – Жизнь Ваша наполнена смыслом, и Вы несете пользу людям? Если это не совсем так, делаете ли Вы что-то, чтобы это изменить? Или планируете еще потерпеть? Если Вам надоело стоять на месте и хочется изменить свою жизнь к лучшему, то, возможно Вам стоит посетить психотерапевта или отправиться в Тибет. А еще можно пройти наш курс, в котором мы не обещаем волшебной таблетки, но обещаем отобранные инструменты для решения топ-3 популярных проблем, которые останавливают людей на пути самореализации. КАК БЫЛ ОСНОВАН ЭТОТ КУРС? Автор курса — Павел Кочкин — за Вас отучился в Гарварде, съездил в Тибет, изучил основы мотивации и позитивной психологии на факультете МГУ и помог найти предназначение тысячам людей по всему миру. Проделав большую работу, основатели образовательного проекта «Предназначение» сильно продвинулись в методологии поиска дела жизни. МЕТОД ПРОСТ КАК РАЗ, ДВА, ТРИ: 1. Пройти техосмотр и отжать тормоза (фундамент для развития) 2. Выбрать, куда ехать (получить гипотезы) 3. Удержаться на пути (выбрать и воплотить в жизнь главную гипотезу) Вы находитесь на курсе №1 серии курсов «Основы поиска дела жизни». Первый курс «Как перестать откладывать дела на потом?» научит Вас бороться с прокрастинацией. Мы давно работаем над процессом самоопределения и обнаружили, что есть три «тормоза», которые не позволяют нам двигаться в направлении дела нашей жизни. Мы дадим понимание этих «ям» и научим их прорабатывать. По итогам прохождения этого курса вы получите базовые основы развития. НА СЛЕДУЮЩИХ КУРСАХ ВЫ: – Получите хорошо выверенные гипотезы вашего будущего развития – Будете обладать инструментами для отсеивания лишних гипотез и воплощения в жизнь главной гипотезы Утром вас сорвет с кровати, чтобы заниматься тем, чем хотите! Интересно? Нажимайте на кнопку «Записаться на курс»!

À partir de la leçon

Проблема №3: Где гарантии?

Вы узнаете, что не стоит ждать от кого-то гарантий, нужно действовать самому и учиться брать ответственность на себя. Как побороть свой страх ошибки и научиться двигаться через дискомфорт. Решение проблемы №3 - Инструмент №3 "КУЛЬТ ОШИБКИ"

4.1. Маленькое – большое яблоко. Зачем откладывать дела на потом?8:21

4.2. Сомневаюсь в своем выборе. Где гарантии?4:31

4.3. Консервативный сценарий. Сколько стоит стоять на месте?4:36

4.4. Пожалуйста, ошибайтесь!4:24

4.5. Пример 1: Велосипедоведение2:57

4.6. Пример 2: История одного продюсера2:04

4.7. Пример 3: Зачем руководство ходит по канату?1:42

4.8. Пример 4: Что я помню кроме отпуска и выходных?2:13

4.9. Хорошая новость для лосей1:59

4.10. Три защитника лося8:30

*4.11. Мудрые мысли (полезное задание)2:27

Выступление Стива Джобса перед выпускниками Стендфордского университета14:49

4.12. Делай по-другому (веселое задание)2:58

4.13. Где живет дискомфорт?4:29

Rencontrer les enseignants

Кочкин Павел
Кандидат наук
Институт интеллектуальных кибернетических систем

Small apple – Big apple. Why procrastinate?

Let’s go on, guys.

Please keep in mind that we are looking for our predestination.

And we have now reached the stage,

where we stop putting the most important things off

and learn how to start acting right away.

So far we have studied the first two reasons,

and now, finally, here is the third one.

The third reason is, of course, the fear of making a mistake.

You may want to ask me – where are the guarantees

that, if I now change my job,

I will succeed?

Start up a business?

Listen, do you have any idea how many problems

there are in business?

You want examples of how companies go broke?

No way! Get married?

What the hell are you talking about?

There are no decent guys left.

He will leave you for someone younger anyway.

You will give him your time, put your trust in him,

and then he leaves you for someone young, beautiful,

and what are you to do?

So, this fear of mistakes,

it locks us up in certain limits.

What can I do if I constantly

face this fear when

predicting my choice?

The first thing we need to understand

is that feeling fear is ok.

If you can’t feel fear, something is wrong with you.

Fear is a protective mechanism, so let’s now study

three main protectors

that will be protecting you against the

что вы будете двигаться в направлении этого дискомфорта,

discomfort and fear on your way.

The good news is that you can move forward despite your fear.

You need to move forward through the discomfort, through the fear.

And what are we moving to?

Again good news: we are, like children,

conceived beautifully. We are not facing the task

of discovering something new in ourselves.

We will now try to restore the initial settings.

So, what does the fear of mistakes mean, where did

it come from, and why do we have to force our way

through it all the time?

I can’t remember it has been there before.

One of my teachers gave me a simple example.

She said: Pavel, your job is to find

a balance between the inner and the outer motivation.

What is it about? In our childhood

we always want to get a "small apple",

the so-called first impulse.

A huge number of people live by superficial pleasures.

Small kids, if they want to eat

something, they reach out like this - yum! - and eat it.

And if they don’t get it, they start to cry like this: aah!

With your small simple actions, every time

you want to move forward,

you can either get a superficial pleasure,

for example, eat a chocolate,

or you can get a deeper pleasure.

How? By not eating a chocolate.

And what is behind this desire not to eat a chocolate?

This is often called the outer motivation.

They say I cannot.

I cannot eat chocolates in the evening, because I need to lose weight.

And suddenly it turns out that we are living

in a strange zone between the inner and —

– kind of outer motivation.

What is it about?

I kind of like chocolates, but I'm on a diet,

and so I cannot eat after six.

Here comes the question: I cannot or I do not want?

It turns out, in fact, that behind every outer motivation,

behind every major task you are working on,

there is the inner one.

So, the first important part in this module,

note: there is no outer motivation,

the outer motivation is the inner one but with a deferred effect.

Once again.

The outer motivation does not exist —

there are no "must", "have to", "should".

Attention, I'm taking this yummy from you now.

You know, it's no longer possible to shift the responsibility for your choice somewhere outside.

Who applied for the job you hate now?

Who came with a resume and asked:

accept me, please.

Who submitted the documents to the bank and asked for this mortgage?

Who came to the gym and said: please, teach me

how to make my body look good?

I want to get married and I want my husband

to weigh more than I do.

So I have two options: either he

should get super fat, huge, or

I need to lose weight.

But for this I have to go to the gym,

not have chocolates after six pm, and so on.

So, there is no such a thing as the outer motivation,

it's the inner one but with a deferred effect.

There is a beautiful experiment:

a child is offered one candy

now or two candies in an hour.

This ability to get a deferred pleasure

in many ways determines the child's success in life.

If you are able to make some efforts

now to enjoy something a little later,

this will allow you to get the "big apple",

to achieve great success in life, reach something serious.

And the search for the predestination is, believe me, a very serious thing.

And on the way to this "big apple",

to these big tasks, a very unpleasant thing arises –

fear of making a mistake

and coming to the wrong address.

So, basing on this idea,

this concept, our work

is to find a balance

between the inner and the outer motivation.

If we live only by our inner,

small desires, we will always get a

very short and superficial pleasure.

If we want something big

and we concentrate

on it, this "big apple", and then we forget

why we chose this job,

this mortgage,

this partner, this partner,

why it is my responsibility and I chose it,

then this effect is called “burnout”.

And people forget that it was their mindful choice.

And so they keep running in small circles,

forgetting that, in fact, it was their own choice.

So, at this very moment we lose contact

with our daily activities

and we lose it at school.

We focus on outer motivations.

As one of my friends scientists said:

"Pavel, school takes away from

us by force the things that we would

otherwise give it with love."

It seems to be a huge task,

a "big apple" - to get an education,

to become an educated person.

It seems so fine: you have to go to school,

you have to do homework.

And here the red pen appears again.

I remember when I first came to school,

I wanted to study,

I was in a great mood, I thought: I know this,

and I wrote a beautiful letter, aah!

But instead of praising and encouraging

me for what I did well, the teacher took my

homework to check and marked my mistakes with a red pen.

This negative experience

at some point blocked

my sincere desire to learn.

We will soon call it the cult of mistake,

developing discomfort.

Children are always very enthusiastic about learning new things,

“cognitive incentive”. What does "cognitive incentive" mean?

Platon, my son, he is two now.

When I put him at the table to feed him and he is eating,

if I don’t give him any object to study, can

you imagine what will happen?

How much time do you think I have?

Just a few seconds.

He will say immediately: let me study something.

We have the most beautiful cognitive incentive granted by nature,

but school destroys it with a red pen,

just like it murders the

genius or gives us

the fear of making mistakes.

And now we are afraid to move in the direction of "big apples".

So, in this module we will learn how to deal with this problem,

how to force our way through the fear of mistakes,

how to eliminate this inner red pen

and the barriers we come across on our way.

I will give you some examples of very strong people,

which demonstrate that one shouldn’t

be afraid of making mistakes.

Let’s turn to the examples.

Explorer notre catalogue

Rejoignez-nous gratuitement et obtenez des recommendations, des mises à jour et des offres personnalisées.

Coursera propose un accès universel à la meilleure formation au monde, en partenariat avec des universités et des organisations du plus haut niveau, pour proposer des cours en ligne.

© 2018 Coursera Inc. Tous droits réservés.

Télécharger dans l'App Store

Disponible sur Google Play