So now we're going to talk about the various relationships you create between your avatar, your speaker and the other people in your work. Maybe you know the joke from the movie Annie Hall, the guy says to a psychiatrist, "Dr. my brother's crazy. He thinks he's a chicken". Doctor says, "Why don't you turn him in", the guy says, "I would, but I need the eggs." There illusions that keep the peace in our families and communities and so often we participate in keeping up those illusions. It's often easy and convenient to depict ourselves as either passive witnesses or as the targets even of other people's whims and desires. The savvy reader knows that there's no such thing as a nonparticipant especially in a family drama. Complicity is normal. There's nothing wrong with that except when we depict the people around us as being unilaterally responsible for the joy and suffering in our lives. What attracted you to the wrong crowd, to begin with? Why did you continue to indulge or enable, abusive or selfish or emotionally unavailable or all of the above person? What was your stake in the situation? In other words, what were the eggs that you thought you were getting?